Monday, April 2, 2012

To Cut or Not To Cut

I have been wanting to chop my hair off for a few months now. But at the same time I love my long hair. I love extremes I guess. But last week I went to trim my hair as many of you know by now and I accidentally cut off more than I originally intended. This has left me with hair right at just longer than shoulder length and I have to admit, I am just not feeling it. So as I sit here with this hair, I am debating on making the cut. I have spent some time pinning some short hairstyle on my Pinterest and now I just need to decide how short do I want to go?

My former long hair - and this is in a ponytail!


My new shorter length
So while I want to chop it all of into a cute updated pixie cut (and believe it or not I used to have a pixie cut and I loved it, just didn't love the need for a haircut every 6 weeks. I am just not that high maintenance!) So I was thinking maybe I should go a bit shorter to start out and if I'm feeling up to taking on the maintenance then I go go shorter from there. Plus it won't be this sudden drastic change. Which in my 20's I was all for, it's just hair after all, it'll grow back. But now the whole drastic change thing just isn't for me. Here are some shorter styles I pinned. (you can see more on my Pinterest here if you're interested. 


this one is my favorite

This one looks a little too "done" for my personal taste, but it's an idea.

Now if I were to do what I really want, I would just chop it off. If drastic changes or fear of "OMG - I change my mind, I want my long hair back - what did I do!!!" setting in scare me, I may need to hold off a bit. But I am telling you, for months I have been looking at hair like this and I want my hair short again sooo bad! 

This one seems a little "done" for my taste, but I absolutely love it. 

If I really had the nerve, I would do this! But I am not quite that adventurous. 

My old cut was a little shorter than this. Well by maybe another 2 inches LOL. But I think this would be a modern take on that pixie cut of the late 90's. 

My other issue. Many times I go out with little to no makeup on. I clearly remember to this day that not wearing makeup just was not an option for me then. I just didn't feel comfortable without a full face on when I had short hair. The other thing is I grew up in the 80's. This meant most moms had the Princess Di cut. I associated getting older with cutting all your hair off. When I was in my 20's and cut it all off I knew I still had years of long hair still ahead of me if I chose. Now that I will be 38 this year a little voice in the back of my mind thinks, OK this is it, get ready to go from this to short white curly hair. I know it is completely ridiculous, but maybe that just means I'm not as ready as I think to take the plunge. The reality is I think my current length is the new mom length. That length between long and short. So what's holding me back? And why do I care so much of whether it is "mom" hair or not. I am a mom after all! 

And of course lastly my opinion is any stylist can cut long hair. Take my hair for example, I am not even a stylist and I just you tube cutting my hair and have been cutting it myself for the last 4 years. OK so I don't have this AMAZING head of hair, but it doesn't look half bad. My point is, it's really hard to screw up long hair and much easier to hide when you do. With short hair, even a bob, it takes a stylist who is experienced and current with the latest techniques in cutting short hair. With short hair it is very easy to end up with a dated hairstyle if you do not go to an experienced stylist. And where do you find such a stylist? When you see someone with the short hair you want? Sounds easy enough, but I live in a beach town where everyone seems to be blonde with perfect long beachy hair. No one has the style I am looking for, because believe me for months I have been looking at every one's hair around me to see. Although with the Beauty Bloggers of Central Florida - a few of the girls have cute bobs, but that would mean I would have to go to Orlando to get my hair cut. And lets be honest, I already go to Orlando at least once a month, so I guess that wouldn't really be all that bad. I guess I just need to get off my duff and make a decision. Cut or Don't cut. I think I could decide to get a tattoo easier than this! LOL!

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  1. It's hard deciding on such a drastic cut like this. I had hair down to my waist and just decided one day to cut it all off!!! Plus, my then newborn son loved to use my long hair as handlebars *ouch* Just go with your gut instinct and take the plunge :-)

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    1. Easier said than done! But I think I am going to.

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  2. Big decision. Can't wait to see what you decide. I like the first cut best for you.

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    1. For sure you guys will find out. I am going to canvas my Orlando blogger buds to see if they know someone good.

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  3. I was like that about my short hair re: makeup. I ALWAYS wore a full face when I had short hair.

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    1. Yup - that is the downside. Today I had so much to do and so much excitement going on the last thing I did was my hair and makeup. I hardly have days like this, but they do happen!

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  4. Yeah, i think you should get a tattoo. Hahahaaa! Oh I love Ginnifer Goodwin's short hair!

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    1. Ha!ha! Can you imagine? Much easier! They only last forever! I already have what I want for tattoo's. As much as I love them, I actually think I am done.

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  5. Ive always been the same. Its just hair it grows back & faster than you'd guess. I think you should! Ive got the itch big time but I'm trying to hold off until my wedding since I have a heart shaped French braid I want to do with my hair. I usually go from waist length to super short like 2nd set of photos. While I find times I miss my long hair its usually minor & forgotten quickly. Ive never been able to keep up with getting mine cut constantly so before I know it I have long hair again lol.

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    1. I cut mine about 6 months before our wedding and this was before extensions were available so easily. Juan's cousin created this faux undo where the top was not in it and it looked like I had long hair. I say wait until after the wedding. I thought about that too late! But that is my problem, I get sick of the maintenance and then I just let it grow back. Decisions, decisions.

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  6. I'm all about going for it these days. I say be daring! The good thing about hair is that it grows. So if you end up hating it, don't worry, it will grow out!

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    1. Yeah but while it is growing I could end up looking terrible! OK so maybe I am a little vain! LOL!

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  7. It's just hair. It will grow back! Of course I say this and I have not cut my own long hair shorter than shoulder length for more than 20 years! Lol. Okay, maybe I will not give you my two cents worth on this topic. Either way you go, you will still be a strikingly beautiful lady, Maria! Go with your gut! :)

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    1. It's always the ones with the gorgeous long hair that want to encourage the rest of us to cut ours! LOL! I really want to cut it, but obviously something is holding me back. Oh yeah - not knowing an amazing stylist! LOL!

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  8. I'm always hesitant about cutting my hair short I did once and hated it for the longest time lol but that's just me I've always envied ladies with full head of fantastic hair. Maybe it would be better to start off with a short bob and see how you feel about that and then transition into going shorter.

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  9. I had my hair pixie short (my blogger pic) until last year when we moved to the west coast and away from my BFF who is my hair dresser. Now that we are back east, my hair has grown and I am also debating whether or not to go back to super short. Pros- it's easy to style; I love the way that it shows off different features of your face; Earrings suddenly became my #1 accessory once my hair was cropped off. Also, now that my hair is longer (to my shoulders) all I end up doing is pulling it back, so what is the point?? My hair is super straight and on the thinner side, so I feel like it is more suited to be short. On the other hand, while I was growing my hair out, I was super aware of keeping it healthy, so now my hair is in really good condition for the first time ever. When I was mid-grow out on the west coast, I actually stopped a girl shopping at Kohl's that had super awesome short hair to find out where she got it cut. She told me that her stylist was at Hollywood week for American Idol, so she didn't know when he would be around! I took that as an omen to keep growing...now though, I don't know what I want!
    I also totally get what you mean about going without makeup when your hair is short..you just feel- different.
    I always thought of my short hair as being stylish, and then my little brother's girlfriend (who was 15...I'm 32) said something about me having the "Mom haircut" and I was bummed out for 2 days. hahaahah!Like you said, I don't know why it bothered me since I AM a Mom and LOVE being one...lol.
    For the record, with your cheekbones, I'm sure you look amazing with short hair!

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    1. Maribeth - it's like you are in my head! That is exactly how I am feeling! I'll cut mine if you cut yours! LOL! You are actually making me want to cut it more! Mom hair or not!

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    2. Your post has really revved up my contemplating ;-)

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  10. Short hair shows confidence! Long hair is something to hide behind an inferiority complex. Short is sassy, sexy and very easy to take care of. I see so many with long hair that is in a clip, pulled back . . is that really taking care of long hair? No I don't think so! And I used to have long hair!!
    Try the short, sassy look and if you don't get more compliments then grow it back out . . for God's sake it's hair!

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    1. Right - it's just hair! It'll grow back - but I think you hit the nail on the head! It is so easy to hide behind long hair when I need to. This is turning into shrink session - lol

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  11. You have to make sure to look at pics of gitls that have the same hair type as you. Fine and straight. Otherwise, the cut will lay differently on you.
    The blonde pic thats yoir fav seems right on- the ones before that- maybe not. Vanessa and lindsay and those other chicks have thick, heavy hair.

    Trust me I got a terrible cut for the same reason, opposite problem. I have thick, heavy hair. I brought in a short hair pic of Keira Knightly who has fine textured hair---without thunking. The stylist didnt say it would be IMPOSSIBLE for my hair to play nice and lay that way even with all the heat and product in the universe. And my hair looked like shit. And it took like 6 mire haircuts over the next few months to get something I didnt hate.

    Now a year later--I like my hair again.

    Your hair seems thin/fine so you can easily pull off almost any short cut. I say go for it.

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    1. Yes my hair is fine, but it can get "messy" and curly pretty easily. If I let it air dry there is some wave to it. Nothing like the girl in the first pic, but more like the girl in the 2nd pic with the bob. But short for sure brings out the fullness in my hair - or at least it used to. Now I do worry that it might be a bit to fine and thin since it is changing.

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    2. Hahaha, "changing"--- mine too, welcome to post child birth-middle age chica!. I swear my hair is just a LITTLE thinner than it used to be. Back in the day, I could only wrap a typically pony-tail holder around my ponytail TWICE. And sometimes they would break when I tried to do that. I had two stylists who would not cut my hair-- because of how thick it was- like literally refused and I got NO haircut lol. Now-- well actually ever since my son was born it seems thinner. Not like falling out or balding just, totally different texture- and also VERY dry. I have no problem throwing it up in a ponytail and using any hairband two or three wraps these days.

      I also never used to get frizz (maybe due to the weight?) and now-- I can get pretty frizzy. Like you, my hair is pretty straight and if I air dry it- I can throw in a little anti-frizz and brush it and its just slightly wavy but-- if I let it air dry and dont touch it-- I get deeper waves and a few curls- though usually I dont like the wave/curl mix lol, so I just flat iron it.

      Back to YOUR hair-- I think that with your texture, any short cut will be GREAT because your hair will lay nicely. And I agree, shortness may actually make it look a bit fuller, may bring the curl out a bit too! :) That would be pretty and also expand your options for different looks! I bet if its short enough you can just sort of finger style it---which will make for HEALTHY, beautiful hair as it grows out w/o being heat styled too often. Also, from your pics-- you have the perfect facial bone structure for short hair. You can totally rock it.

      I love Keira Knightly in short hair-- google her and check it out. Then if you like it, I can live vicariously through you lol-- in the haircut I could NOT pull off :( hahahaha

      BTW- this is Deborah Mandel ;) -- I dont have an account w any of the options given so I had to choose anonymous :) Forgot to include my name above.

      Dont be hesitant to $$spend$$ on the initial cut. Once its the way you like-- you can have maintenance done at a less expensive place if you want. Its easy for any good stylist to follow someone elses cut--but you need a GREAT stylist to do a long to short cut.

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  12. Don't cut, and get the tattoo instead! :)

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    1. Ha!ha! that's two for the tattoo! Love it!

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  13. Hair grows back, and you still look young enough and pretty, ofcourse, to pull off a really short, short hair cut. I'd loved when Id chop my hair off back in 2006. It was really, really short. I dont know if you seen pictures. I would love to do it again, but I dont know if at this point in my life it would make me look older. Plus the kids hated my hair short and Gary doesnt like it. =D
    I say, go for it.
    ZErickson

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    1. I remember your short hair. You of course have seen me with my short hair too. Yes Gary seems more traditional the way I think most guys are. Juan on the other hand likes it both short and long. But he thinks I should leave it alone this time. Hmmm... that is just like telling me to cut it! LOL!

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